How Politics Ruined My Relationship

I’m sure everyone, even if you don’t reside in the US knows the upset we’re living in right now.  As a millennial, I believe in safe places because sometimes this world is just honestly too much to comprehend.  What if your “safe place” came with a price?  You seek refuge but you become forced to face the very strife you’re trying to avoid?  This was my 9 1/2 month relationship.

It started out okay…he liked different music (a country fan while I dig Nine Inch Nails) but that was tolerable.  We went on cool dates and the more we hung out, the less our differences popped up.  Enter election season.  One day I received a call.  “How can you vote for her and seriously call yourself a Christian?”  This was what I answered the phone to.  What difference does it make?  Isn’t part of being in a relationship supporting one another?  I didn’t bash him for his decision to vote for our now POTUS.  I even spent the night of November 8th at his house just so we could hear who won together.

I thought after the elections were over we would become closer.  I never pulled away like I wanted but sure enough I was still bashed for my disgust in our new President.  Now, I’m not going to riot and say “Not my President” although I totally understand the appeal.  Things may seem fishy about this election but as I sip my tea I know that rioting is not going to change the opinion of the far right.  It’s just going to procure more “whiny babies who don’t work” talk.

For months I tried to cut off the talk of politics.  A few weeks ago he calls me and says, “I can’t talk to you.  I deserve someone I can talk to.”  I said he was right on deserving an outlet but he can talk to me about anything…anything EXCEPT politics.  Unfortunately that’s all that was on the menu to converse upon that night.  I recall screaming into the receiver “STOP!  STOP!!  I can’t talk about this” with no avail.  I felt like it was verbal assault.

We broke it off when he couldn’t see that he had an anger problem.  He swore up and down that he was doing all he could in this relationship and I wasn’t pulling my weight.  So, I present to you, anyone who reads this to comment.  Do opposing politics belong in relationships?  Have any of you broke up or maybe found a way to make it work?

Let’s discuss.

Liz